One bugbear with the term wellness is the idea that we should be happy all the time. That's not humanly possible, nor is it healthy. So how should we cope with life's sometimes overwhelming sadness? How do you go on when you lose someone you love? We asked Annie Reid, whose son Luke died when he was 12, to share her thoughts:
'I think one of the most important things to remember when you are in the throes of grief is that suffering is also a connection to that person, so it is bittersweet. Go with the grief don’t fight it. There are some terrible books on the subject. But I highly recommend these:'
1. Joan Didion
The Year of Magical Thinking, £6.29, amazon.co.uk
2. C S Lewis
A Grief Observed, £7.99, amazon.co.uk
And read Hilary Mantel's brilliant piece about it here: theguardian.com
3. Claire Maitland
The Swallow, the Owl and the Sandpiper, a collection of poetry and prose compiled, £14.99, amazon.co.uk
Words by Annie Reid. The Iris Letter May 2017.